20 May 2025 2 min read

Episode 10 Postmortem (WILD Podcast)

This final episode in the Grief in Community segment arc invites us into one of the most complex, raw, and often invisible intersections: grieving while parenting—and parenting while grieving.

Here in Episode 10, we pause to name the very real tension of trying to hold space for someone else’s childhood while still processing the weight of our own grief. We explore what it means to be an "absent-but-still-sorta-present" parent, the impact of untended grief on our caregiving, and what becomes possible when we tend to our grief on purpose.

This episode wanted to:

☑️ Make space for the parents, caregivers, and aunties showing up with cracked hearts and heavy minds.
☑️ Remind us that children witness our grief whether or not we name it—and that naming it can be an act of love.
☑️ Offer tools for speaking to young people honestly about loss, without overburdening or shutting them down.
☑️ Reflect on how our caregivers’ unspoken grief shaped us—and how our own grief might be shaping the young ones in our care now.

I shared some of what I’ve learned while grieving my own sh*t and still trying to stay present for my children’s “life tings.” Not perfectly. Not performatively. Just in practice. Because parenting is already layered. Grief doesn’t ask for permission to add more.

Core Questions from this episode:

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• How did your parents or caregivers grieve around you?
• How does your untended grief impact the children in your life?
• What might young people be learning by watching how you grieve?
• What kind of conversation about grief would you have with a child, if shame wasn’t in the room?
• What’s one way you can tend to your own grief more gently this week—not just for your sake, but for theirs too?

If this convo stirred something in you, come debrief with us inside the WILD Chat Room. That space is made for exactly this: non-performative, non-pretending practice with grief. You don’t need the right words—just the willingness to share or sit with someone else’s share. That counts too.

Thanks for walking through the Grief in Community arc with me. We’ve got one more arc ahead. Stay with me. Until then, be easy, and keep tending to what wants tending.